donor boner
donor boner
Phonetic Spelling
The IPA phonetic spelling for "donor boner" is:
/ˈdoʊ.nɚ ˈboʊ.nɚ/
Syllable Breakdown
donor (/ˈdoʊ.nɚ/)
do-: /doʊ/ - The voiced alveolar plosive 'd' sound followed by the long 'o' vowel sound as heard in "go" or "boat".
-nor: /nɚ/ - The alveolar nasal 'n' sound followed by the r-colored vowel (schwar) as heard at the end of "winner" or "doctor".
boner (/ˈboʊ.nɚ/)
bo-: /boʊ/ - The voiced bilabial plosive 'b' sound followed by the long 'o' vowel sound.
-ner: /nɚ/ - The alveolar nasal 'n' sound followed by the r-colored vowel.
Word Form Variations
The term is a compound noun. Its variations are:
Singular: donor boner
Plural: donor boners
Singular Possessive: donor boner's
Plural Possessive: donor boners'
Definitions, Synonyms and Antonyms
This term is informal slang and often used humorously or cynically.
Noun
A feeling of intense, often self-congratulatory, pride and satisfaction that results from performing an act of generosity or charity, especially one that is publicly visible.
Synonyms: charity high, altruistic rush, benevolence buzz, virtue-signaling glow, philanthropic thrill, helper's high.
Antonyms: donor's remorse, compassion fatigue, apathy, humility, selflessness.
A conspicuous and self-serving display of philanthropy intended to make the giver feel morally or socially superior.
Synonyms: moral grandstanding, self-righteous gesture, virtue signaling, exhibition of charity.
Antonyms: anonymous donation, quiet altruism, genuine self-sacrifice.
Examples of Use
Here are several examples of how the term "donor boner" might be used in various contexts.
Examples of Use
Online Publication
In a blog post criticizing performative philanthropy, an author might write:
"We need to get over our transactional mindset around fundraising events. We need to get over our need to get a donor boner from seeing our logos on stuff, and instead focus on what actually helps the community we claim to serve." (Vu Le, Nonprofit AF, February 2018)
Entertainment Medium (Podcast)
During a satirical news podcast, a host could remark on a celebrity's recent charitable act:
"Look, I'm glad he donated, but did he have to post the ten-minute video about his journey to the donation center? It just screams 'donor boner,' trying to get as much public credit as humanly possible." (Chapo Trap House, Episode 299, February 2019)
General Public Discourse (Online Forum)
A comment on a social media thread about a billionaire's highly publicized donation to a university might read:
"Another billionaire getting a massive tax write-off and a building named after him. You can practically feel the donor boner from here. Meanwhile, he could solve actual problems with that money instead of just buying a legacy."
Book
In a passage from a satirical novel, a public relations manager might advise their tech CEO client:
"Don't just write a check, Mark. We need a press conference. We need you holding a giant novelty check, maybe even crying a little. The board wants a full-blown donor boner on this one; something to distract from the data-mining scandal."
Newspaper
A line from an opinion column in a city's alternative weekly newspaper criticizing a recent municipal project funded by a corporate sponsor could state:
"While the mayor gushed about the 'generous gift' from OmniCorp, let's be clear: this isn't altruism. It’s a marketing ploy, a civic-sized donor boner meant to make us forget they just laid off 500 local workers."
10 Famous Quotes Using Donor Boner
"I am getting a donor boner just thinking about it." (Connor Roy, Succession, Season 2)
"We need to get over our need to get a donor boner from seeing our logos on stuff, and instead focus on what actually helps the community we claim to serve." (Vu Le, Nonprofit AF)
The senator’s press release was less about public service and more about satisfying his own donor boner for the cameras.
He plastered his name on the new library wing, the most expensive and transparent donor boner the university had ever seen.
"Forget the charity auction; the real prize for these guys is the donor boner they get from outbidding each other."
Her philanthropic efforts were genuine, driven by compassion rather than the fleeting high of a public donor boner.
The corporation’s sudden interest in environmental causes was a transparent attempt to generate a green donor boner and distract from their pollution record.
After his massive donation, he basked in the adulation, privately enjoying the donor boner he had so publicly engineered.
"Another gala, another night of watching the city's elite chase the ultimate donor boner."
The foundation’s gala was a masterclass in performative altruism, designed to give every attendee a tax-deductible donor boner.
Etymology
The term "donor boner" is a modern, informal slang phrase created by combining two simple words. To understand where it comes from, it's best to look at each word separately.
Donor: This part is straightforward. A "donor" is a person or organization that gives something, most often money, to a cause, charity, or institution.
Boner: While this word literally means a penile erection, it is used here as a crude and humorous metaphor. In this context, it’s not meant sexually. Instead, it’s used to describe a powerful, visceral, and self-focused feeling of excitement, pride, and satisfaction. Think of it as a physical metaphor for a big ego boost.
Putting It Together
When you combine the words, "donor boner" refers to the intense, self-congratulatory rush or ego-driven thrill that a person gets from the act of giving money, especially when the donation is public. The use of the word "boner" gives the phrase a cynical and dismissive tone, suggesting that the donor's motivation isn't pure altruism but rather a selfish need for validation and to feel good about themselves.
First Use and Meaning
"Donor boner" is a relatively new term, likely originating in the 21st century. Like most slang, pinpointing its absolute first utterance is nearly impossible.
However, the term was in use within certain professional circles before it became mainstream. For example, it appeared in the non-profit-focused blog Nonprofit AF in February 2018. The term gained significant widespread popularity after it was used in the HBO series Succession in an episode that aired in September 2019. In the show, the character Connor Roy uses the phrase to describe the feeling of pride he anticipates getting from a philanthropic act.
The meaning has remained consistent: it is a cynical term for the self-satisfaction that comes from performative or self-serving acts of charity.
Phrases + Idioms Containing Donor Boner
Chasing the donor boner: To actively seek the feeling of self-satisfaction from public acts of charity.
To toot one's own horn: A classic idiom for boasting, often used to describe those who publicize their generosity.
A tax-deductible donor boner: A cynical phrase highlighting the financial and egotistical incentives behind a large donation.
Moral grandstanding: An idiom for speaking or acting in a way intended to make oneself seem more morally upright than others.
A textbook donor boner: Used to describe a perfect, almost clichéd example of performative philanthropy.
Doing it for the 'gram: A modern phrase for performing an act (like charity) primarily for the purpose of posting it on social media for public validation.
To get a raging donor boner: An emphatic way of saying someone is experiencing an intense, almost overwhelming sense of pride from their giving.
Patting oneself on the back: To openly congratulate oneself for an achievement, fitting the self-congratulatory nature of a "donor boner."
Nothing more than a donor boner: A dismissive phrase used to imply that a seemingly generous act has no true altruistic motive.
All for show: An idiom suggesting that an action is done for appearance's sake rather than out of genuine feeling.
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Source Information
Definition of donor boner from The Academic Glossary at Self Exploration Academy, a Urikville Press Publication. © All rights reserved.
